6FootBombshell

They’re calling Tiger’s divorce “the divorce of the decade”.  I’m actually surprised Mrs. Woods actually left him.  But I have  a strange feeling had the humiliation not been televised, she’d still be right there.  As the reports came in that the divorce was official, it amazed me how emotionally charged women around the world are about Tiger’s indiscretions and poor poor Elin.  But what amazes me more is this  feeling that a woman is ENTITLED to all or half of  her husband’s fortune because of a divorce.  I’m reading comments across the World Wide Web like “she should leave him penniless”, “she should take him to the bank”, “$10 million for each affair”.  Are you kidding me?  Elin didn’t swing a damn club or win a single Masters.  Furthermore, he was half a billionaire when she met him.   Why should she be entitled to half his fortune?  Yeah, so what she was his wife and took care of the kids.  Shit, that’s what she’s supposed to do.  Just like he was supposed to bring home the bacon.   Don’t get me wrong, I do believe she’s entitled to SOME money.  I do not believe the children should have to go to the poor house but neither should the husband who broke his back bringing home those millions.  I don’t care if Tiger slept with half the female population in Canada, Elin should not get half his fortune.

When Britney Spears went spiraling downwards and Kevin filed for divorce no one was saying “Kevin should take her to the bank!” As a matter of fact, he was being called a scumbag for getting alimony.  Why the double standard?  She’s the breadwinner so why isn’t Kevin entitled to half her fortune?

We need to stop crying about being treated as equals but when certain things happen we play the damsel in distress and use the “woman” aspect as a basis to support our claim.  If Elin gets half then so should Kevin.  I bet if we hear more about men talking half our fortune we’ll be singing another tune.

I wish fathers were celebrated more throughout the year.  Because at the end of the day they are just as important and just as needed as mom is.  There should be a shift from this unwritten “societal rule” that mom is the nurturer and dad is the breadwinner.  Yes, biologically mom is but there needs to be a movement in the family structure where dad is also the nurturer.

I was fortunate enough to have my father in my life until he was struck down by a silent killer.  One day he went to the hospital for what he thought was severe gas or stomach pain only to be told it was pancreas cancer and had only a few months to live.  Three months later he was gone.  At this time I can say I had him for most of my life but it dawned on me when I get old and grey I will only of had him for a very short period of time.  I’ve been robbed.

I honestly do not know who’d I be if I didn’t know him.  This is in no way to take away my mother’s role but my father’s love was my first identifiable source of male affection.  It has prepared me for the next man in my life.  Because of my father’s love I do not seek validity from a man.  My father told me I was already valid.  Because of his love I know my worth and how I’m supposed to be treated.   I was so prepared for love and dating.  It was like he had everything written out for me and it was the small things that he was always right about that determined the character of a man.  He told me if a man can’t give you his home number (this was way before  cellphones took over) then he’s married or living with a woman.  That always stuck in my head when I was meeting guys and literally almost every guy at that time that could not give me a house phone was married or with a girlfriend.  I’ll never forget the time a gentlemen was giving me his beeper and office number.  He said, “I work 50+ hours so I’m never home.”  As he extends his hand out with the business card I said to him, “my father told me any man who can’t give me his home number is not a man I should be dealing with.  You’re married, aren’t you?”  I’ll never forget his face.  His head dropped and the hand that had his card in it fell back to his side.  He began to shake his head and laugh.  He was busted.  But what has resonated in me to this day was his reply:  YOU HAVE A GOOD FATHER.  TAKE CARE.   And we parted ways.   He walked away with the card in his hand.  There was no need to lie or plead his case.  He knew I wasn’t the chick to run the game on.  Stories like that were few and far between.  I always seemed to gravitate towards men like my father or them to me.   It was the norm for me to be in the company of great men that in some way epitomized my dad.

Then there are the other traits that make 6FootBombshell the women that she is.   Besides the height and the dimples he gave me the desire to never conform, my righteous fury, my fight for what is right, the revolutionary that’s inside me, my mindset.  All these things are my father.  His role was my future.

Daddy, thank you for being my blueprint.  Thank you for loving me.  Happy Father’s Day.

I guess if you make any of the “Forbes Highest” list, you’re doing pretty damn good…especially during a recession.  Money is tight and companies that typically use big name models to promote their items, have resorted to using some untested faces.  Although the industry is strapped for cash, these models are recession proof.  Here are the world’s highest paid models.  I guess Halle Berry was right, he is a loser for only making 700k. *shrugs*

Gisele – $25 million

Aside from starring in campaigns that included True Religion jeans and Dolce & Gabbana, she has her own sandals line–Ipanema by Gisele. In Vogue‘s April cover story, Bündchen touted environmental causes. She reportedly donated $1.5 million to the Red Cross for Haiti

Heidi Klum – $16 Million

Beyond the television fame, Klum remains a longstanding member of the Victoria’s Secret Angel entourage while also hosting Germany’s Next Top Model and endorsing a slew of products, including Diet Coke, Volkswagen, McDonald’s and LG.

Kate Moss – $9 million

One of the world’s most influential fashion icons; at 36, she’s built herself one of the most lucrative modeling careers in the world.  Moss remains the face of Versace, Longchamp and David Yurman, among others. In November she got flack from eating disorders’ support groups for telling Women’s Wear Daily, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.”

(uummm this is a sought out look for modeling? No comment)

Adriana Lima – $7.5 million

Yet another Victoria’s Secret angel atop the list, the Brazilian beauty got her start as the winner of the Ford model competition “Supermodel of the Year.”

Doutzen Kroes – $6 million

Seen recently on the catwalk during fashion week for Prada, this Dutch beauty retains a lucrative contract with coveted cosmetics brand L’Oreal. Former holder of lucrative Calvin Klein Eternity and Calvin Klein White Label.  She’s the last angel to sign with Victoria’s Secret 2 years ago.

Alessandra Ambrosia – $5.5 million

In the past year the Brazilian has scored gigs with high fashion labels including Louis Vuitton, Prada and Moschino. Victoria’s Secret contract plus Latin American deals keep the cash rolling in.

Natalia Vodianova – $5.5 million

Rags to riches Russian model continues to live the American dream. A contract with lingerie company Etam and lucrative fragrance campaigns with Guerlain and Calvin Klein helped the 28-year-old pull in $5.5 million over the last year.

Daria Werbowy – $4.5 million

Lancome and H&M contracts lead a string of lucrative endorsements.

Miranda Kerr – $4 million

The Australian model collects fat checks from Victoria’s Secret and David Jones Limited.

Carolyn Murphy – $3.5 million

Murphy is once again the only American model on our list. The blonde is still going strong at the ripe old age of 36. Aside from her contract with Estée Lauder, she’s been campaigned for Roberto Cavalli, Anne Klein.  It pays to be the face of Estée Lauder.

They’re kinda average looking when they’re not all dolled-up on the runway.  That check isn’t average at all, though.  Do your thing ladies.

I would like to see these endorsers have a more diverse “looking” group of models.  I don’t think people realize how powerful these images are to young girls around the world.  If every image of beauty is being sold as these 10 faces, then what are little Asian girls thinking?  Or little Latina girls? Or black girls?  These companies need to start giving more of an accurate image of what this planet looks like.  Ijs.

Rimah Fakih, a Lebanese-American citizen, is the new Miss America.  The enormity of this is naturally the fact that a Arab-American won this pageant.  We know the history of the women in most Arab countries are covered from head to toe, so this new image is bothersome to a few.  Then you have the pricks who have an issue with the fact she’s an Arab.  People do not think a Muslim girl should be representing America.  I can take the time and rip their ignorant ass apart and by Sunday of NEXT week as they sit in their trailer park home, their mansion or their penthouse overseeing the city, it dawns on their dumb ass that they were just ripped a new one, but since the Celtics are 2 games away from sending Orlando home, I’m in the spirit of forgiving and will spare them their pride.  Just then one time, though.  I’m not a killer but don’t push me *said like Pac*.

Anywho.

Congrats to my Arab sisters for winning the crown.   I’m not into pageants and don’t really understand the passion behind it, but its  not for me to understand because it’s not my passion.  If someone wants to be “Miss fill-in-the-country”, then go right ahead.  But why does it seem like the second the crown is placed on the winners head some “controversial” pictures of the newly crowned are suddenly released to the public?  It’s almost like some bitter ex-boyfriend or jealous ass girlfriend is sitting in their basement at their computer desk, index finger pointed and ready to hit the ‘send’ button right as they hear…….and….the….winner……….is……………………  They damn near broke their finger sending off those pictures.  Apparently Rimah’s set has suddenly appeared.  Donald Trump has stated that he doesn’t have a problem with the pictures.

“The Miss USA Pageant and the Miss Universe Pageant just got renewed for three years by NBC,the ratings have been terrific. We are in a different age. They are a little bit sexy but I’ll tell you what — everybody’s watching so I have no problems with it. If you look at Miss America, it’s now off network television and we’re doing better than ever so I really have no problem with it.”

Well he shouldn’t have a problem with them nor shall the rest of the no life having losers who have called and email the Pageant demanding her crown be relinquished because the so-called “controversial” pictures came from the PAGEANT itself.  Get a life everybody.

But pageant girls, I need you to step your nudie picture game up.  If you know your goal is Miss America then you should think twice about turning that camera phone on yourself and sending the picture to your jealous and obsessive boyfriend that you will break up with the minute you start winning some pageants.  Or how about a disclaimer?  When you get asked “how do you plan to save the world?”  You should start the answer with this:  “First, I’d like to say I made some mistakes when I was younger.  I may have taken some pictures and sent them to my boyfriend.  I thought I’d just put that out there.”  Then look into the camera and tell your boy “I beat you, now what?”

HA!  I crack myself up sometimes.  Even when you’re not laughing, I am and that is all that matters.

People are acting like this was a Carrie Prejean repeat.  You remember Miss California who said she disagrees with same-sex marriage and just like that she was de-crowned.  To this day she still claims it was because of that comment.  No bish, it’s because there’s a video and photo’s of you hoeing.

Tell me what you think of Rimah’s “racy” pictures.  I don’t see anything wrong with them.  ESPECIALLY since the Pageant took the pictures.  The girl is gorgeous, a little to thin, but she’s beautiful and the picture is tasteful and sexy.

These 2 below are considered the “controversial” ones and the ones they want her crown relinquished for.  Are you serious?  Go hang yourself.

Disclaimer:  First, I’d like to say I made some mistakes in my day.  I may have taken some pictures and sent them to my boyfriend (s).  I thought I’d just put that out there.   – Anjie3000

LMAO!  Now that was funny… true but funny.  lol.

I remember many conversations about Hollywood beauty:  “Who’s the most beautiful women on stage/screen?”  The typical names come up like Halle Berry, Angelina Jolie, Pam Grier, Audrey Hepburn etc etc etc.  But we haven’t seen beauty like Lena Horne in many years.  Her grace, elegance, talent, and strength all wrapped up together was something that always stood out.  Plus I always thought she reminded me of my late grandmother, a woman who I only WISH I can emulate just a fraction of.  So I was saddened to hear about her death on Mother’s Day.  Although very happy she got to live 92 years on earth, I felt like we could of used another 10 years or so of her here.

A bulk of her life’s work was done during times that most people today would probably roll over and die in.   She couldn’t stay in the hotels she performed at; she had to perform for whites only first and THEN to blacks on another day; she risked not getting any work because of her refusal to play a maid, which was basically the only character black women could play during that time; she had to sneak and marry her second husband who was white; people in her Hollywood neighborhood treated her like she was nothing and were adamant about getting her out of “their” community until Humphrey Bogart stepped in and put an end to the harassment; and her association and friendship with the likes of valiant leaders such as WEB Dubois and the great Paul Robeson almost ended her career. Born, Lena Mary Calhoun Horne in 1917, she broke racial barriers in her music and film career that some tried their hardest to keep up.  Blacks during that time were supposed to “stay in their place” and keep quiet.  They were supposed to sit by idle and do nothing as they were treated like 2nd class citizens in a country that was built off the free labor of most of our ancestors.  Her political views and activism got her blacklisted in Hollywood.  There was a time Ms. Horne couldn’t even get a part.  But her love for music didn’t stop her from standing strong in her convictions.

She was involved heavily in the Civil Rights movement.  She marched, she rallied, she refused to perform at segregated audiences during World War II.  One audience had German POW’s front and center while blacks sat in the back.  Lena worked effortlessly with Eleanor Roosevelt on the anti-lynching law.   All these things made her lose some backing in Hollywood.  But she didn’t care.  That’s commitment and strength.

Best known for her role in Panama Hattie, her performance of the title song Stormy Weather and Cabin in the Sky, Lena actually never had a leading role.  Her race prevented that.  Most, if not all, of her movies had to be re-edited for showings in states that did not allow movies with blacks in it to play in the theaters.  She went through all of this so that the Janets, Beyonces and Alicias would not have to.

Lena Horne died at the wonderful age of 92, on Sunday, May 9, 2010 in New York.  What a huge huge loss to entertainment and the world.

‘My identity is very clear to me now,’ …’I am a black woman. I’m free … I don’t have to be an imitation of a white woman that Hollywood sort of hoped I’d become. I’m me, and I’m like nobody else’

Lena Horne, 1917-2010

News flash – making a dramatic difference in your appearance does not require a scalpel, 2 packs of weave or 12 weeks of intense cardio! There are actually a few quick and easy ways you can give your look an instant boost without spending absorbent amounts of money:

1)      Consider having your eyebrows professionally sculpted either by having them waxed or threaded. Your eyebrows frame your face and can add depth and intrigue to your eye area. Be sure to not have them arched too high or to get them too thin. You don’t want to look surprised all the time or to get them so thin that you almost appear to have none at all.

2)      Stepping out on the town? Got a hot date? Want to make an impression at a special event? Why not consider fake lashes? This is a quick and easy way to create the look of elegance. Fake lashes come in a variety of styles – some more natural looking and others more dramatic in length and fullness. A good rule of thumb is to consider that less is more. You want to have good-looking lashes – not fake looking lashes. Also, consider having them applied professionally for the first time. The application can be tricky and the last thing you want to happen is for your lash to detach in front of a perfect stranger!

3)      Have you ever wondered how the celebrities have faces that appear to be sculpted, vibrant and airbrushed? Maybe they’re born with it? Maybe they have a great make-up artist! Yes, it’s probably the latter of the two. Adding light and defining certain key places on the face can enhance and even create light and definition where otherwise there is none. There are many products on the market for highlighting the face ranging from crème highlighters to powdered products. Using a foundation or a concealer up to 2 shades lighter than your own works fabulously. If you don’t want to invest in highlighter, concealer or foundation, use one of your beige-colored eye shadows that you no doubt have within one of your shadow palettes. Add this color with a sponge applicator underneath your eyes, in the inner-corners of your eyes, underneath each cheekbone, down the length of your nose from between the eyes to the tip of the nose, in the center of your chin and across your forehead. Then use a large make-up brush and gently blend. Instantly, you appear rested and youthful! One of the finest in his craft, Sam Fine, makeup artist to the stars, published the book Fine Beauty full of techniques and full-color pictures of some of the most amazing work ever. Here, on the cover of his book, he displays among the many techniques, his highlighting trick:

4)      Try a pink lip gloss for a clean, natural and dewy look. Yes – pink, ladies. All of us have a pink that compliments our complexion. Some of us look better with rose-tinted pinks while others look better with more mauve-colored and brownish pinks. A great way to make pink your pink is to use a liner. First apply light brown or dark pink liner to the lip line. Gently blend your liner so that it doesn’t literally look like a line. Then apply your gloss (or glosses). Sometimes, achieving your best lip color requires a blend of more than one gloss. Also, a key to longevity in your lip product is lip conditioning. Washing your face alone does not adequately maintain the integrity of the skin on your lips. Consider using a lip masque product and a lip conditioning product to help remove dead skin and to smooth and heal the skin. This will improve the texture of the skin, preventing your lips from cracking and peeling.

5)      Do people of color blush? I can’t say that I ever have but I certainly do apply it and it truly enhances my entire face. Blush can bring out features you did not know you had and it can create ones you do not have. Please do not achieve the clown face when applying you blush! Red circles on your cheeks is not the proper application. Adding a touch of color to the apple of your cheek and then using a large, angled brush to sweep the color up and to the outer corner of your eye can do wonders to create the look of high cheekbones. Afraid of overdoing it? No problem – just sweep your face with loose powder. Traditionally, when we think of blush, we think of reds and rosie pinks but there are also the bronzes, raisins and mauvey pinks. Don’t worry about your blush matching your lipstick or your eye shadow. It’s meant to enhance not match!

6) And finally, last but not least, the infamous, never-failing, always sexy and alluring, captivating smokey eye! There are numerous versions of this technique and it’s not for the faint at heart! You have to be bold, courageous and enchanting to pull this one off - otherwise the look can come across as excessive and superficial. Don’t bother going to get a “smokey eye” makeup palette. Just find your black eye liner, some black, charcoal or dark brown shadow and some black mascara and a matte highlighting shadow to accent your brow bone and you’re off! There are numerous tutorials on the internet showing you different ways to achieve this look varying from a basic cocktail after work smokey eye to a more dramatic black tie affair smokey eye. As a rule, to avoid a busy face, the smokey eye should be paired with a pale or nude lip. You don’t want anything but the eyes to have the attention of your audience.

Still thinking about paying thousands for a nose job or lip injections? Take one or two of these tips out for a test drive and you’ll be amazed at the amazing transformation! Enjoy!

Article I wrote for 5point Magazine www.5ptmagazine.com

Historically, there’s always been a link with beauty and long hair.  Women with long hair are seen as sexy, beautiful and exotic.  Their femininity is never questioned and their societal acceptance is never at stake.

Growing up I remember girls that were in my circle being teased for having short hair.  I also remember feeling like I was given a “pass” because my hair was long.  “Pass” you say?  Most African Americans know about the history behind the skin complexion issue that has plagued us for many many years.  I’m a dark brown complexioned women and I saw first-hand the difference in how other young girls my same complexion with shorter hair were teased, than I was.  So that is what I mean by getting a “pass”.

It wasn’t until I got a little older that I realized how deep this hair issue was.  My mother would not allow me to cut it AT ALL.  As a teenager I begged to get the current styles of that time.  Without any hesitation I was turned down.  Finally, I had it cut without her permission.  When my mother walked in the house she immediately began yelling at me.  I was put on punishment for cutting my hair!  I’m not even going to tell you for how long.  I think that was the day I went on a hair rebellion.  I cringed at any reference to the length of my hair.  I hated when men talked about my hair as if it solidified my beauty or as if it was my only asset.  I cut it at any chance possible.

Typically I always kept the haircuts at shoulder length but then finally I got one of those Nia Long, Halle Berry short cuts and fell in love!

I wore that style for years and then grew my hair the longest it had ever been.

This is when all hell broke loose.  I moved to Atlanta for a short period of time when I had this long hair.  I ended up moving back home to Boston and during that time I shaved it all off.  They cut of 17 inches of hair.  As the barber clippers went over my scalp I felt so free and liberated.  The person cutting my hair was trying to convince me that “it wouldn’t look right” and that “this cut is not for everyone.”  I replied, “You’re right. I’m NOT everyone.”  I pretty much had an idea that the buzz cut would look good especially since at one point my hair was cut short like Halle Berry’s current style, so I was not worried about how it would look.  When he turned the barber chair to face the mirror, I had never felt so sexy in my life!  You could not tell me anything.    Surprisingly everybody took to it very well, ESPECIALLY the men in Boston. But guess who didn’t?  That’s right, MOM!  When I walked in, she gave me this look of utter disgust.  I have never seen disappointment on her face like this that I was completely blown away.  Here she has a daughter that’s never been on drugs, never arrested, college educated, never given her any major problems during childhood and young adulthood and she’s looking at me like I went on a 30-day Methampthetamine Bonnie & Clyde murdering spree with Pookie and them.   She talked about how I would be viewed by society.  How “threatening” I would be to Employers blah, blah, blah.  Although I was hurt, I expected it.  I moved back to Atlanta and guess who else didn’t take to it as well?  That’s right, MEN!  Two years prior when I had 17 inches of hair flowing down my back, they loved me.

It’s been 5 years and I still love it.  I still think I’m the sexiest thing walking.  When my hair was long it did not define me and now that it’s short it STILL DOESN’T define me.  Sexuality, sensuality and beauty have absolutely nothing to do with the length of hair.  What’s sexy is following your own style.  What’s sexy is not conforming.  What’s sexy is the way you walk and lick your lips.  What’s sensual is when a man rubs my head and when I had long hair, when he played in it.  Do not let society dictate your beauty.  I didn’t and feel WAY more beautiful than I ever have and my freedom is allowing people to accept another form of beauty.

Be brave…be yourself.